The Remembering Room - Getting help

You’re ready to start making new choices. But you’re not sure what choices to make, how to make them, or how to avoid hurting the people you love.

Your emotions — the ones you’ve been stuffing away out of sight — are scaring you. How can you let them out, acknowledge them, and keep your life and career intact?

You know something has to change. You can hear yourself screaming inside, even if no one else can. And you want to know how you can let yourself go to find out who you are, who you want to be.

To be honest, I kind of got talked into working with Jon, and I didn’t know what to expect. I knew things weren’t the way I wanted them to be — “screaming inside” definitely describes how I felt a lot of the time — but I was completely caught in the Reality Trap.

Now it makes me laugh and cringe all at the same time, to think how close I came to saying no. It probably sounds like a cliche or an exaggeration, but working with Jon has simply changed my life. How? Well, I guess you wouldn’t believe me if I told you the world is luminous now, instead of shades of gray. :)

I know who I am now. And who I am moves in the world with confidence, pride, and love. People react differently to me — I’m not invisible any more, they see me and respond. Friends comment that I’ve changed — for the better! — though they’re not quite sure how. Clients are responding more deeply to my work, and signing up more easily.

And there is more peace, more certainty, more trust, more joy, and more love than I ever dreamed possible.

Jon is teacher, guide, healer, and coach. He always seems to know the right thing to say (or not say) at the right moment to help me understand new ways of being and new concepts about being. He creates safety and inspires trust, in him, in myself, in the process as I move through it — and in the world.

A huge part of what makes him so good at what he does is that he lives what he teaches. So many people are in a “do what I say, not what I do” mode, even with the best of intentions.

The work Jon does — well, in what he teaches and where he guides you, authenticity-in-action is crucial. In any situation, I can not only ask myself, “What would Jon say?” but even more importantly and powerfully, I can know how he would act. And that’s where the real power in his teaching lies. He is a living example of the possibility, of the reality, of what he teaches and where I can go with that teaching.

Jon has helped me fledge into a swan — and I am the original geeky ugly duckling, believe me. I’m still testing my wings (with his help!), but I can fly now. I can dance now. And it’s beyond words.

- Grace Judson, Oceanside, California
http://www.svahaconcepts.com

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I was referred to Jon by a friend, and at the same time as I felt I owed it to myself to give it a try, I was also thinking, “Well, I hope this works.”

For me, it is hard to trust a man emotionally. I was hesitant to surrender to all the pain inside. He let me know it was O.K., human and liberating. Finding Jon was a real blessing which I am thankful for daily.

When Jon asked me a question and I would answer it, he would interpret it and see it through another lens. Then I could modify what I was saying, or look at it as maybe not accurate, or created by one of those scripts that we invariably have in life. I could see, okay, there’s another way to look at it.

Our conversations flowed — there was an organic aspect to the way we’d talk. It wasn’t contrived. He was able to elicit responses from me that were very deep, that I perhaps hadn’t even articulated to myself. It was a kind of a dance — a gentle moving of ideas and thoughts.

Jon’s perspective always comes from a pure space. His heart guides him; he has a very intuitive way of relating and thinking and communicating. It was like a dance, very sacred. I felt that I could lean into his strength, and yet remain myself. And that is something I’ve never, ever felt — and it was liberating. He truly listens — listens from a place of love, compassion, and trust, without judgment. He listens and he guides.

From a learning perspective, it was getting outside of my own way of looking at things, and understanding that there is a myriad of choices available if we are tuned in to the intention that we hold highest in our heart. That can be in any aspect — solving a problem in daily life, or working on a creative process, or in relationships, whatever.

I don’t judge myself so critically now. I believe that my perspective is unique and does have value. And I know that I’m not alone in the way I think — in my spiritual quest. The integrity that I live on a daily basis is my heart’s desire and is the purest way I can live if I am in accord with myself. If I am in tune with that quiet listening in my spirit, I can be guided and be doing the right things.

When I really stop — the silent meditation, the quiet being in myself — that’s the tuning fork we all need for being our truest self, which of course is what I think we should be. That was a very good tool that he left me with — the silence of meditation, the non-judgmental quietness, knowing that answers come, and they are beautifully presented if we are aware, if we listen.

I think he’s very special. He has such an ability as a man to elicit from a woman feelings that you don’t share with men normally. I don’t mean to sound sexist, but there is a real comfort in Jon. He gently illuminates the colors and the prism and perspective that we are as unique individuals. When we listen to our hearts, things can be transmitted to the world, transmitted to our daily actions, for the benefit of the whole circle.

- Heidi Jack, Suquamish, WA
http://www.creations-in-clay.com

How does it work?

In three weekly phone meetings per month, we explore how you are in the world and how you want to be. We learn who and what you really are — the true depth and breadth of you — and we discover how you can express that truth in the world.

I am there with you through each step of the way, in the trenches with you as you work through the process. I encourage extensive email contact in between our calls. Your journaling and writing helps both of us understand what you’re experiencing, and allows me to guide you into next steps and around pitfalls.

As you extend your awareness and discernment, you’ll step into bigger and bigger understandings of yourself. You’ll break down those compartment walls, rediscover your inner gifted girl, and invite her back into your life and your self.

I use many different tools in the process — meditation, visualization, inquiry, and others that we’ll explore together as they apply to you and your situation. Most importantly, I hold a sacred, safe space with love and unconditional trust. In this space, in the Remembering Room, miracles can happen — and often do.

I have deliberately never worked intensely with a man at this level before. I have trust issues that go way back that I’ve never been willling to look at. So it was huge for me to decide to work with Jon.

Before working with Jon, I compromised in every area of my life. I said, this will do. This friend, this child’s behavior, this food, not sleeping even when I was tired, the men I dated ... all those compromises and different ways of not honoring what I really wanted. And all that time being so closely attuned to others that they were constantly amazed at how much I understood. In the meantime, I was getting sick, feeling over-extended, doing things I didn’t want to do.

Now, my growing edge is looking at what works for me, not taking care of other people’s needs by comforting them or giving reassurance that aren’t truthful for me. And I’m noticing that it’s easier for me to eat healthy; I’m not choosing junk. Food is no longer my answer to stress.

I went to a candle-lighting ceremony at the University of Michigan, for people who have lost loved ones to cancer. It’s been fifteen years since my husband was a patient there. There I was in a group of 300, and all of us were crying. Before, I would never ever have been comfortable crying openly in public like that. For the first time, I was able to give myself the gift of feeling my tears, being emotionally available to myself and really feeling the hurt. It’s the first time I’ve ever been able to receive the support of others and openly grieve at the same time.

Jon, I am humbled by your strength of character, knowledge, patience with the process, and clear vision for me as a client that I see emanating from you as you work lovingly with me. It’s beyond words how grateful I am that I have your presence in my life.

- Char Brooks, Okemos, Michigan
http://www.the-first-step.com

What’s the first step?

Call me, or send me an email using the form below. It’s just that simple. And with the first step through the doorway, your heart begins its journey.

Name:

Email address:

Phone number:

What time zone are you in? (If you are out of the US and Canada, please indicate your country)

How did you hear about me?

Please take just a moment to tell me a little about yourself and your situation. Don’t worry about how much or how little you write, or how vague or specific you feel you’re being. This is just the first step.

Do you have any questions you’d like to ask?

What two or three times are you available to talk in the next few weeks? Please choose times that are between 9:00 a.m. and 4:00 p.m. U.S. Central time, Monday through Friday. I’ll email you to confirm a meeting time and then call you at that time. (If you’re outside the U.S., we’ll figure out the best time and best way to connect.)

Are you feeling trapped between your commitments and your desire to break free and live?

Is it possible to reclaim your “inner gifted girl” — even at this point in your life?

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How does it work?

What’s the first step?